We’ve been raised by being praised for performance and achievements. For something we do, complete, outshine. And there’s no surprise why we grow up striving for “perfection” - for more, better, greater… Because this is when we feel like we really deserve - love, acceptance, our dreams, anything really - only when we perform and achieve.Read More
When we look for acceptance externally – outside of us, what we’re going to find will always feel “outside” of us. It won’t shed our self-judgement, shame, guilt, blame, fears and insecurities. It won’t heal our relationship with ourselves. It won’t soothe our pain.
You can strive to earn the approval of others, but you can gift yourself acceptance. It’s not something you need to struggle for. It’s always been there, ready to gift it to yourself. It doesn’t come with conditions, rules or expiry date.Read More
Have you tried dozens of affirmations, “mirror work”, all the self-care rituals and tips you can find online, but you still catch yourself denying love to certain parts of yourself, hiding them, feeling ashamed, guilty and embarrassed?
These things can help, but there’s MORE to healing the relationship you have with yourself. The route to loving yourself starts with ACCEPTING everything that makes you who you are.Read More
I didn't journey through self-acceptance easily. I didn't just click my fingers and went "there". It took work and patience with myself (which I honestly doubted that I had in me). It took courage to go through the darkness and stay there until I was ready to move through the light. Until I was ready to accept the person I was and the person I still am. All those times when I rejected parts of myself was because I didn’t believe they were worthy of my acceptance and love, and anyone else’s either.Read More
I want to talk a little bit about the moments when others choose to criticise and judge, blame and shame us for who we are or what we do. These moments are often inevitable as we can’t control perception, but we can always reality-check these messages and see for ourselves if we want to internalise them.Read More
Every time I made strands in my self-acceptance journey and got closer to shedding what held me back, I was surprised (and yes, really frustrated) that I still had further to go. That there were still parts of myself that made me angry and ashamed... Parts that I blamed and judged.
It took me several rounds of this pattern to realise that yes, I was healing. I was accepting myself more and more with each day, but it was NOT linear. It wasn’t pretty. It wasn’t neat and Instagram-able.Read More
Feeling is not easy. It’s one of the most beautiful things that makes us human, but it hasn’t been exactly “easy”. And honestly, I don’t think it’s supposed to be.
We are not meant to experience only the “easy” emotions – the “good” or “positive” ones, otherwise we would be capable of feeling only them. When we are feeling “good” (aka happy, optimistic, hopeful etc.) we are not any more worthy or deserving of our acceptance and love than when we’re feeling “bad” (aka upset, angry, sad, disappointed, discouraged).Read More
When we discover something in us that we don’t like, our first response is to hide or change it, bury it or push it away from us.
We don’t believe that it belongs to us (regardless of whether we’ve been conditioned to think so or whether it’s because of a past experience or an old story). We don’t believe that it deserves our acceptance. We don’t believe that we deserve our love or the love and acceptance of others.Read More
What’s the relationship you have with yourself like?
Is it a priority in your life? Do you make time for it and put the work into it? Do you base it on understanding, compassion and acceptance? How do you resolve the conflicts? Are you always there for yourself? Do you feel heard and validated?Read More
Do you catch yourself comparing who you are or your life to others?
I believe the key is to become more aware and learn how to understand it better so it doesn’t take away from who you are and your journey. So you no longer have to feel inadequate, unworthy or anything “less”. The more you know, understand and accept yourself, the more you’ll stand in your inner power, own your worthiness AND the less you’ll feel the pain from comparison.Read More